I had a conversation with someone last week about life in general…just the usual, how are you going, what have you been up to sort of thing. After a while they mentioned they felt like they were failing at everything: life, work, raising kids. They felt like they were too busy trying to do everything and not feeling on top of anything. I can pretty much guarantee two things; one – they are not failing at any of those, and; two – they’re not alone.
I’ve written before about how I’m a bit of a perfectionist and if I can’t do something I feel embarrassed. You can pretty much substitute the word failure for embarrassed in there and you get a similar result.
We’re all busy and certainly don’t feel like we have it (life/work/relationships/children) under control. I think that’s normal, I think that’s ok. Stefan recently wrote a great post on perception versus reality (titled Behind the Doors) which touches on a similar topic. The image we portray to the outside world is very different to what is going on at home and in our minds.
So you know what. I think it’s ok to…
- Feel like you haven’t got it all together
- Not be where you thought you would be at this point in your life
- Have made mistakes with your money
That’s human…that’s normal.